"Rape"
The word in itself sounds ghastly, and the act is even worse.
It is an act that can completely destroy a woman, both physically and mentally, it completely destroys her self respect and violates her body, a woman's worst nightmare,and a fate worse than death, because in death you only die once whereas a rape victim dies everyday due to the cruelty of the society, which believes that when a woman is raped,she is the one responsible, saying that she has dressed or behaved provocatively or inappropriately, or has been in a place where she isn't supposed to be
After an incident last week, there have been protests everywhere to hang the rapists, that they deserve capital punishment
I say why hang them, is death punishment enough? No.
I think a more appropriate punishment would be to castrate these men, emasculate them, so that they will never be able to do the same to another woman, and more importantly,make their life miserable just the way they have made the life of an innocent woman miserable.
But at the back of every woman's mind is another question, how can i stop that from happening to me and others in the future?
To address that, we need to get to the root of the problem,the reason why it is happening..
We live in a sexually repressed society, where the word "sex" is taboo,something which is not to be talked about, yet, that doesnt stop young minds from thinking about it, our movies dont openly talk about it, yet it stays on most young mens minds, it stays there boiling,and when they get an opportunity in the form of some unsuspecting female in the wrong place, they take advantage of it.
Another reason is this, while the indian woman has become mature and is progressive in her thoughts and actions, the male mind still hasnt reached the maturity level to respect and understand these women, the result is a society, which looks progressive on the surface, but once you scratch the surface, you will realise that its not just uncivilised, it is a dangerous situation, where everyone believes that they are in a safe and secure society, only to realise that it is not as safe as they think it is when incidences like what happened in delhi last week happens, suddenly they shatter our sense of safety and well being.
We think that getting better laws and judiciary will ensure our safety in the future..is that all it takes?better laws?, maybe.
But what needs to really change is our mindset, because until and unless every man learns to respect and value every woman the way he respects his mother or sister, things wont change, and this change has to come from within, every woman should ensure that her sons and brothers respect other women the way they respect her.This is not something which will happen overnight, but a change which has to happen over a prolonged period of time..
Till then, self defence classes, karate, pepper spray and being aware of your surroundings and avoiding known unsafe places is our only answer..
2 comments:
It seems 90% rapes are preplanned and the rapists is known to the victim.
Stranger rapes like the Delhi bus gang rape happen because the rapists are confident that they are unlikely to face any consequences.
The victim is more likely to be blamed for being in the wrong place at the wrong time,in the wrong clothes, in the wrong company etc Combined with the trauma, the stigma and blame is enough to silence a victim. Silence of the victims empowers rapists.
There is also safety in numbers, if there are more women (and families) on the streets/public spaces, the streets/public spaces become safer.
So it is not a good idea to ask women to stay away from public spaces.
i agree with you, but i meant avoiding known unsafe places, not avoiding public places, there is a difference, when i meant unsafe places, it can mean deserted streets, places where incidents have happened or can happen
Post a Comment